Why is everone getting married? Okay so not everyone is getting married but it sure feels like that. Within the past two months I have heard of three couples I know getting engaged, girls I haven’t seen in forever announce that they are going to get engaged soon, and then there are all the weddings. It’s June, wedding season, made obvious by “Wedding Crashers,” so I guess I should expect it. And it’s not that I have anything against marriage or weddings. In fact the real kicker is I would love to plan a wedding. Really, I love planning events, I love shopping, and I love fashion and coordination, all essential parts of a wedding. No, I am not one of those crazy girls who knows exactly what they want for their wedding and they’re just looking for the man to complete the picture. I would love to plan your wedding if you’re getting married; I can most certainly wait for my own.
No is this what I can expect as I get further into my 20s? I was looking forward to celebrating my friends’ graduations from graduate and law schools so I never thought about marriages. Quite honestly, at 22 years old, I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with another person. I am not ready for that level of commitment. I don’t even know what kind of career I want to pursue or even what outfit I’m going to wear in the morning to work. I also wonder, seeing as I work with the elderly, if girls my age are really thinking that you are most likely going to spend 50 or more years with this one person, forgoing all the fun of youth in favor of picking out paint for the living room and the possibility of a baby carriage (though at least they are getting married before the baby carriage, something some girls seem to have problems with nowadays). Sure, I would asolutely love to be in a loving, committed relationship with an amazing guy but since I’m not, I’m not going to miss out on all the fun of meeting cute, silly, funny guys in all sorts of places. Plus I look better after my last break up than I have in the past four years of college. I am not going to waste having a hot body that I didn’t even work for.
How different we are, as I’m 26, and in a relationship and have been in serious relationships since I was 18, never really being single. But I found I got into trouble single, that’s me. Sometimes I really long to be single and have independence again. I feel that has been stripped from me–and all privacy. I also feel diluted in so many ways and as if I’m supposed to always just ’shut up’ because certain things are too taboo. I’m rambling or ranting here….
Anyway, yeah marriage is a huge commitment. And my parents were divorced so I’m not one whose ready to make that step either, even though in a relationship, but it’s crumbling and so stressful.
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Thanks for your post.
Sincerely,
Mea Nada M.